On this all important birthday, I thought I’d take a moment to list out 30 reasons why I adore the crap out of you. Also, you made me go to Napa and now I don’t have money for a present, so this heartfelt blog will have to do. Enjoy!
And now, in no particular order, 38 reasons why I adore the crap out of you.
(To keep up the suspense, and make you re-read all of this, number 38 is at the bottom.)
30. Your Butt
Look, we both knew this was coming so might as well get it out of the way now. As the immortal Sir-Mix-A-Lot once sang, “You can do side bends or sit ups, but please don’t lose that butt.” Make this your motto and I’ll be a very happy boy. Also, I love that you answer to me calling you Butt. Fantastic.
29. Your Optimistic Irrationality
Though sometimes I joke, I love how you almost never see something as a bad idea, even if it includes adopting 16 puppies at the same time. As a conservative, “logical” soul, your undying enthusiasm for the unorthodox is a welcome addition to my life.
28. Unconditional Support
You don’t have to root for me, and you don’t have to believe in me, but you do. And it’s not because you’re my girlfriend, it’s because you truly believe in me. I don’t take this for granted, and I can’t possibly thank you enough for it.
27. The Dance You Do When Putting On Tight Jeans
Oompa-loompa-doopity-do. Adorable.
26. Your Sense of Adventure
You’ll go to the casino at the drop of a hat, try new foods, do things like… you know. It’s fun to know that if I wanted to go learn trapeze artistry, you’ll be swinging right next to me.
25. You Know I Watch NASCAR and Wrestling
And still choose to date me. Now I must wonder, what’s wrong with you?
24. You Love Nights In
I’m a homebody, but am willing to do date nights and nights out if that’s what you’d like. Instead, you more often than not choose Law & Order marathons to the point where if we get married, I feel like Benson and Stabler should be invited. I’m good with that.
23. You’re Affectionate Beyond Belief
Sometimes I wonder if you know that I have an entire part of the couch that I’m not sitting in, considering you’re always infiltrating the third of the couch I am occupying at whatever time. But I’m not complaining. After all this time, it’s still special to hold your hand, even more so when you grab mine. Don’t change.
22. You’re So Driven
I laugh at your obsession with lashes and waxing, but I love that you want to be great at what you do. I admire how much research you do, and how even though you may have your head in the stars (see #29), your head is firmly on your shoulders. I know you’ll be great at what you do, mostly because…
21. You Truly Believe You Can Will Things to Happen
Yes, there are times when I laugh at you for just thinking things will happen because you want them to, and then I stop laughing the second they do. For a tiny little person, you have an amazing ability to conform the universe to your wants. I’m starting to believe I never had a choice in us being together. Sly devil.
20. You Like Salmon
This is pretty self explanatory, but if you were one of those “don’t like fish” people, you’d definitely be one of those “not dating Cosmo” people.
19. Your Laugh
That rolling giggle of yours cracks me up. I also enjoy that high-pitched little “huh-HA” you do. Plus, I’m really happy you don’t have a horrible laugh. Really, really happy. Speaking of…
18. You Laugh at My Jokes
As you should, because they’re all hilarious. But sometimes you appreciate my jokes on a different level. You appreciate wit and sarcasm. I appreciate that you appreciate. This blog is going well!
17. You Love Champagne
Preseccoulmates!
16. You’re Not a Crazy Girl
Long distance isn’t easy, but you make it a lot easier by never blowing anything out of proportion (when sober). If I don’t feel like talking on the phone (always), you don’t take it as a sign we’re breaking up. If I have to delay seeing you for the first time in 10 days because I have tickets to a wrestling show, you don’t throw a fit. This is a gift far too few men get to enjoy, and I enjoy it immensely.
15. You Share
You always offer me a bite of your food, or a sip of that putrid sweetness you call coffee. I take note of the fact that what’s yours is mine, and that is why I bought you a house.
14. You’re Easily Amused
We don’t always have to do something big to be doing something. Whatever we’re doing, whether it be picking up paint at Home Depot, or texting all day long, we’re always laughing about some dumb thing. Hey, maybe we’re dumb. At least we can be dumb together.
13. You Love My Writing
I’ve never published a book, sold a screenplay, or had a blog go viral, and yet, you make me believe I’m Shakespeare, Hemingway, King, and someone hilarious rolled into one. For someone as hard on myself as I can be, it’s your belief in my abilities that give me the confidence to do good things. Or at the very least, attempt them.
12. You Embrace Your Love of Bad Music
Most people would hide the fact that they own multiple Nickleback CDs, but not you. You own it. That takes huge fucking balls. I admire this, even if I’ll never let you near my radio ever again.
11. You Accept Me
Though close to perfection, I’m not completely there yet. But instead of changing the one or two things that keep me from obtaining god-like status, you just accept the fact that for better or worse, this is me, and you’re cool with that.
10. You’re Excellent with Kids
Kam, Clare, and Bub love you, especially Bub. And you’re great with them. You’re going to make a hell of a mom someday, and I’m already happy for your children. They’re getting a good one.
9. You’re Trustworthy
I never question anything with you. You make me believe I’m all you could ever want, which makes me wonder why you wouldn’t aim higher, but hey, that’s neither here nor there. I know you’re mine, and not for a second have I ever had reason to question that.
8. You Don’t Take Shit
Sure, it’s an amazing coincidence that almost every customer service person alive has given you attitude out of nowhere, but at the same time, you don’t take shit off of anyone. Maybe it’s a Napoleon complex or just a short fuse (pun intended), but I dig your feistiness (when aimed at others).
7. You Strive to be Better
You could do very well for yourself by just doing what you do, but that’s not good enough. You want to learn more, to improve your skills, and expand your abilities. And this doesn’t just go for work (wink, wink). I respect the hell out of your attitude towards self-improvement.
6. You Work Your Cute Butt Off
Two jobs, six days a week, and you never really complained or took it out on me or those around you. I would’ve been a walking ball of shit, but not you. Very impressive.
5. :&
Tee hee.
4. :&
Seriously.
3. My Family Loves You
And I knew they would. My friends love you, too. This is beyond important to me, and it was the one thing about us I worried about the least. In fact, I think if there ever is a split, my family may sue for joint custody of you.
2. You Push Me to be a Better Man
For years, it was easy for me to accept things as they came, and only aspire to greater things in my mind. Since we started dating, I’ve gotten serious about my career aspirations, I’ve bought a home, I’ve come to realize what I want in terms of family, I’ve tried to learn about finances and financial planning. I’ve done all of this because I want to provide you with the life you deserve, and if you weren’t around, I’d still be renting an apartment and stuffing every check in the bank where it can earn a sweet .0025% in interest. But now, I actually have a 5-, 10-, 20-year plan, and it doesn’t involve selling parts of me to science. Thank you!
1. You Wear Yoga Pants
OK, that’s not really my number 1, but I thought I would take a second to mention how much I love your yoga pants.
1. You Love Me
And you show it every second of every day. This is the greatest gift I could ever hope to receive, and I can only hope I make you feel the same. You’re such a tiny little human, but you mean the world to me. I love laughing with you, joking with you, planning with you, dreaming with you, and everything that comes with being your boyfriend. You’re an amazing person, and I hope that I can be the reason you will always look at your 30s as when your life became too good to be true.
Also, I really, really, really love your butt.
Update:
31. You Are My Rock
2016 was an incredible year…right up until it wasn’t. 2017 hasn’t started off much better, but it has brought us closer together. It took all of a half second to realize that if it’s you and me against the world, the world will lose by six (Us against the casino on the other hand…). I couldn’t have asked for a better friend, but I really couldn’t have asked for a better partner.
32. You Said “I Do”
8. 8. 16. The best day of my life. I’m glad we have photographic evidence surrounding us in practically every inch of our home so I can be sure that it actually happened. Though we had perfect weather, and were joined by our favorite people, you and I together guaranteed that it would’ve been a magical day had we eloped in a pile of mud (you may have had trouble selling the dress, however). I still can’t believe I get to call you my wife. I don’t know what I did to deserve you, but I’m going to make sure I keep earning you every day of my life.
33. You Are the Greatest Mom Ever
On November 16, you gave me the greatest thing ever: a beautiful, healthy baby girl. And the levels to which you went to ensure that she would be a healthy baby left me in admiration for you (though you risked the beautiful part by procreating with me, but that’s a different story). I mean, you gave up wine for our child. Need I say more? But when I see you with Lillian James Kapowski Esquire, your patience (whaaaaa?), your vigilance and mostly, your ability to soothe her when my half-assed attempts fall woefully short, I realize just how lucky Lilly and I both are. I continue to fall in love with you on a daily basis, and that has so much to do with what a naturally wonderful mother you are. Plus, you rarely wear a shirt these days, so that’s pretty fun, too.
34. You Crack Me Up
I don’t know if you know this but you’re very funny. Mostly, you have two levels of funny. There’s the level where you call everyone under the Sun “bitch” like you’re Jesse freaking Pinkman, and then there’s the level where you cut your food like a caveman, leave coffee mugs in different zip codes of the house and proclaim Chris Hogan dead to you because he ruined your fantasy football season. There was also the time you said, and I quote, “I fucking love you, man,” which still cracks me up when I think about it. They say you should be with someone who makes you laugh. I say that you should be with someone who won’t let you stop laughing. Just know that when you complain to me in a few years about the lines around my mouth, those are your fault (and no, I will not be getting botox no matter how much you beg).
35. Your Enduring Patience
Tasha? Patient? Well, yes and no. Customer service reps have a 100% success rate in pissing you off, and there are times when you still give me half a millisecond to answer a question, but your ability to handle three crying babies (Lilly when she’s tired, brother when he’s awake, me when my fantasy teams act up) without losing your cool is beyond admirable. You sit through my horrible jokes with a smile, barely lose it when I make you repeat yourself 16 times and still find it within you to not kill our daughter when she tries to squish brother. You truly are the eye of the storm that is our household. On behalf of myself and the children, thank you for being so patient with us, even if we do sometimes treat you like those dastardly customer service reps.
36. You Are Beyond Bold
And no, I’m not talking about the way you sass customer service people simply trying to solve your problems. I’m talking about the steps you take in life to get the things you want. You wanted to be your own boss so you started two businesses from scratch. You wanted to have a family so you made the very bold call to mate with yours truly (sometimes, there is such a thing as too bold). But the boldest call of all happened this year, when we both agreed we hated living in Massachusetts. I said, “Yeah, it stinks but what can you do.” And you said, “Yeah, it stinks. Let’s move 14 hours away to a place we’ve never been, to a house we’ve never seen, surrounded by people we don’t know.” 12 short weeks later, I was putting my name on a purchase offer. And so far, it’s been the best thing we’ve ever done, all thanks to you. Stay bold dear, even if it does force my eyeballs to roll back into the darkest recesses of my skull. You’ve been right about everything so far, and my eyes eventually come back.
37. You’re Insane (and You Know It)
Define insane, you say. Well, your side hustle at the moment is flipping Comfort Nuggets. You have ideas that range from raising the roof on our house to installing an upstairs bathroom because, “Plumbing is just pipes!” You’re already planning your 40th birthday trip to Italy and think it’s crazy that I don’t want to do anything for mine. You have two kids that are constantly up your butt, crying about this or that and in response, you say we should get more dogs. You’re also willing to go grocery shopping with those hellions by yourself, which is the definition of insanity. But, you’re fully aware that that amazing brain of yours just happens to run on a special Tasha wavelength — and that’s the best part of all. Keep being crazy (it’s what make me crazy for you).
38. You’ve Gone Crunchy
Now, let’s be clear, I don’t like this crunchy business. I don’t like drinking shakes that involve grass clippings and various ingredients that are better suited for a yard. I don’t like paying for organic, grass-fed cows or free-range, happy chickens. And don’t even get me started on these peanut butters that are 90% oil and feature six different kinds of nuts grown in remote villages that can only be reached by solar-powered helicopters. BUT! I love that you’ve done your research, want to be the healthiest you possible and, most importantly, don’t (always) force these awful smelling foods on me. It’s admirable to watch you formulate a plan and then stick to it. It’s also admirable that you are somehow able to drink that stuff and not horfe. Now bourbon on the other hand… Thank you for wanting to live and stay young forever. If anyone could pull that off, it would certainly be you!
39. You Are Unafraid to Pivot Completely
Right now, you’re hopefully enjoying your first day at your new job. What’s that? New job? That’s right. Out with the spa and in with…chiropractic care? Hmm… Yeah, I’d say that’s pretty typical for a lass who one day woke up and said she wanted to live in the Carolinas for no reason other than maybe you had a dream about it the night before. But honestly, you are a LinkedIn meme come to life. You are everyone who ever took a second to assess what would make them happy and then said, “F it, I’m doing that.” And at the end of the day, aren’t lashes and spines basically the same thing? You keep being you and I’ll keep charting this magical adventure you’re sending us on. Even if it does involve more twists and turns than, well, you’re in the chiropractic business now, you finish this spine joke.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I LOVE YOU!